There is a paradoxical dichotomy in the way that the past exists in our present. We have had friendships and previous relationships in our past. These memories often play themselves out, time after time in the labyrinths of our minds... and never seem to change. In fact, these recollections can't change: they are a part of a time that has already been shaped; so no matter how we may regard them, no matter how many times we re-create a conversation or re-think a decision, no matter how desperately we'd desperately give anything to visit that precious loved one just one more time, the end result will be the same.... over and over again... The sobering reality reigns supreme: We cannot change the past. Although the memories of our friendships still exist in our minds exactly as as they were years ago, the present, here and now experience with these respective individuals is of a different essence. Therein lies the paradox - we know our friends, we remember them... we believe they are exactly the same as we recall from our past, but the reality is they are just not the same... nor are we for that matter... nor are our relationships with them. So there is the challenge: dealing with the presence of the past.
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